For the past week I’ve been thinking about writing a Mother’s-Day-themed post – specifically about the fact that Mother’s Day can be hard when you’re desiring to be a mother but you have no babies. (I know this from experience.) But I don’t have much to say about the hardships other than that “it’s hard.” I can, however, tell you that I am living my life under the leadership of a good God, and my husband, and I truly believe that God is working all things together for His good. That is the perspective that I choose to look at my circumstances through. Here are three things I’m doing:
1. I am choosing to love children even when I don’t have my own. I think I have led several children to believe that they are my favorite child. And somehow each one IS my favorite – there are a lot of kids I really love! Along that note, Michelle from Above Rubies inspired me with this Facebook post entitled EMBRACING THE ATTITUDE:
Embracing children is an attitude. It means that whether you are able to birth, adopt, foster, mentor, or not, you embrace children as a most precious blessing. It does not mean that we all will have large families, or that we are all able to adopt, foster, or have opportunity to mentor. It does mean that our attitude toward children is abundantly warm and welcoming. Our attitude will reflect God’s heart toward children, not the world’s. We will not view children as burdens, nuisances, drains or liabilities. We will view children as esteemed, valuable, precious, worthy of our time and resources. Even if we ourselves are not able to parent, we will enjoy the blessing of the children that still touch our lives. We must counter the world’s attitude toward children, with God’s attitude toward them, regardless of whether we ourselves are fertile or not. They must be treated as the blessing that they are, and our attitudes will speak volumes to the watching world. Love Michelle
That means I choose to be a blessing to the kids in my life. Here is my creative niece during a special t-shirt painting day for just the two of us!
2. I continue to have hope for my own circumstances. There are people who want to have children who find themselves in more challenging situations than mine. I have an encouraging husband and I’m trusting God who gave a child to every woman in the Bible who asked Him for one. I’m asking, and He’s going to be faithful to me too.
3. I am encouraged and inspired by other people around me who trust God, who push through hard times, and who are blessed in the process. This video popped up in my Facebook news feed as I was working on this blog post. I know this ”rapper chick” from church, I have watched her go through the tragic loss of a child, yet her perspective of God and family is still so good! Take a moment to enjoy this video - Look At Me Now (Mom Edition) on You Tube - I’m sure all you moms will enjoy this!